Saturday, October 10, 2009

Pink Is 4 Girls; Blue is 4 Boys (Or is It?)

For years (in our culture) pink was considered a girls color, and mostly only women, and openly gay men wore it. But it’s now quite stylish for straight guys to wear pink.

Not long ago, I sat in a church service under a pastor, who I respect, and he said in his sermon that Christian boys have no business wearing pink; that it was wrong.

I have guy friends who love their pink shirts. I also have friends and family who think only girls should wear pink. Some think, “It’s not wrong; it just doesn’t look good.” And others have said, “Yeah, a pink button up is fine, but a pink T-shirt is just girly.” A few, like my pastor friend, believe it’s a sin to always be avoided. (He is, BTW, a completely awesome pastor. I'm not trashing him.)

I think if God thought it important that only girls wear pink he would've said something specifying that in the Bible. On the other hand I believe we should try not to give other people wrong perceptions.

If you are a boy and if how you talk, or look, or act often makes people question your masculinity, you have a problem. --Even if you’re not gay.

“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. (1st Corinthians 6:9-10 KJV)

(Gay men are often effeminate, but effeminate does not have the same meaning as homosexual; It means having unsuitable feminine attributes.)

The Bible does not say anything against any gender wearing any particular color. But the Bible does say: "A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the Lord your God." (Deuteronomy 22:5)

What defines an item of clothing as pertaining to a man or pertaining to a woman?

I believe that 10 years ago wearing pink might have ‘pertained to a woman’, I believe that back then, when at a glance you would be labeled feminine for wearing pink, it was best for straight men to avoid wearing the color.

--But pink never belonged exclusively to women.
The color isn’t intrinsically feminine.

I don't think it's wrong for men to wear the color when (most) people no longer associate it with femininity.

We are told to, "Abstain from all appearance of evil" 1st Thess 5:22

But Jesus also talks about how people will talk about you no matter what you do:

For John the Baptist came neither eating bread nor drinking wine; and ye say, He hath a devil.

The Son of man is come eating and drinking; and ye say, Behold a gluttonous man, and a winebibber, a friend of publicans and sinners!
But wisdom is justified of all her children. (Luke 7: 33-35)

Sometimes ya just gotta live your life; quit worrying about all the gossip.

But hey if you believe it's wrong to wear pink please don't wear it. You can always tell your friends that pink is scientifically proven  to be more appealing to women. But if you do that you should also tell them that science also says that blue is more appealing to men.

Blue is my favorite color.
Not that it matters.

At one time pink was considered a very manly color: (When I visited Thomas Jeffersons home, Monticello, The bedspread and curtains were hot pink, and the guide said it was because they didn't know what color he used, but that during that presidents time hot pink was a masculine color.)

Google "1920's pink masculine feminine" (or just click on the link) for lots of search results about when pink was considered a boys color.
Not sure why views changed; perhaps because in Nazi Germany a pink triangle was used to identify sexual misfits/offenders (gays as well as rapists, pedophiles, and zoophiles.)

(Triangles were used to identify political enemies. Most Christians are familiar with the overlapping yellow triangles, AKA star of David, for Jews, but are unaware that the Jews weren't the only group persecuted)

I am allowed to care about the persecution of everyone, not just Jews. Not just Christians...


SharriBeth said...

In this blog you said, "At once pink was 'partaining to a women'" You also said that "I don't think it's wrong for men to wear the color when (most) people no longer associate it with femininity." Is that not the same for skirts and pants? Used to girls wore skirts because pants were something that was associated with guys artical of clothing, now when someone sees a girl wearing pants they don't think twice about it because it is no longer associated with just mens clothing. Perhaps at one time it was wrong because pants were something that was 'pertained to a man' but is it still wrong even though they now 'pertain to women' also? Just a thought...

Esther said...

That is a topic teeming with controversy and offence (in our circles.)

I don't think I'm big enough to discuss it online.

Because whatever I say someone (or several someones) will be offended.

Maybe someday...

SharriBeth said...

Yeah someday :)